Category: Singles Spit Swap
Hi, all.
I'm single, but I'm not looking for an online relationship; I've had my share of those in the recent years, and I don't think I can bare to have another one. I'm juts looking for women who are adult enough to accept that some people just don't feel like being in a relationship but we also need our sexual energies released and have new experiences. I don't know how you guys see my filosophy, but let's think about it because I think it's fair game. I'm saying, from the start, that I'm not looking for true love and don't need boundaries. I don't care, at this moment, if a girl, while she is talking to me, has more guys out there waiting for her because Io as well. ybe this is a bit of a hippie filosophy, but let me know what you think please
I hope you find what you're looking for.. I think it's good that you're being honest about what you want and as long as the other person understands that and wants the same thing, then you aren't misleading each other. So, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Good luck. :)
whether they'll post to your board about it or not, I garontee you, there are plenty of women on here who will be happy to help ya out.
I agree with areed86. As long as you're up front and honest about what you want, and you know that's what the other person wants, too, I see nothing wrong with it. I might get flack for saying this, but I honestly think casual encounters can help us on our journey towards figuring out what we seek in a lifelong mate, should we ever choose to look for one in the future. don't get me wrong. I'm not saying go and use people for that purpose, but if you both want the same thing, why not give it a try? that's not what I, personally, am looking for at this time, but as Anthony said, there are plenty of people who really do want that, but don't want to come right out on a public board and say it, for one reason or another.
good luck.
i hope you find what you are looking for. *hugs*
Ocean dream, I agree. People see that as quite a shock but sometimes it is what we need. Let's face it, we're human.
I agree too, though I think casual sex honestly leads to more problems than it does solutions in the long-run. You need to be absolutely certain the two of you are on the same page; you need to be certain neither of you are diseased, and that you're both on some form of birth control (or more than one if it's really casual). There's no real trust, just a penis in a vagina. And no matter how great the sex is, in the end, it's just an orgasm. And if it so happens that for one of you it becomes more than that, there's an even bigger problem. Soemthing that starts out casual might not remain that way for both partners. When we're ruled by our base desires, we're subject to the price that comes with being so.
The beautiful thing about the whole on line thing is that the disease factor is relatively low.
yes indeed. :)
Eh and what does that have to do with the subject? I wasn't talking about blind to blind relationships here... I was talking in general. smile
Where are these girls then? I want to show them my hippie philosophy.
disease factor is relatively low? Don't you mean completely free? I mean if you know a way to catch more than rub burn let me know?
? No babies either.
*slaps OceanDream
what was the point of that?
Plain silliness! Smile.
I think the problem is that some women may feel labled as a whore wware as guys are expected to want sex maybe?
maybe tha'ts why women wouldn't come out publicly admitting they want a little fun.
in the US at least, women wanting fun like that i think is viewed as somehow wrong in which the culture we live.
Anthany said: whether they'll post to your board about it or not, I garontee you, there are plenty of women on here who will be happy to help ya out. yeah and my post above speculates why they wouldn't be wanting to put it public perhaps.
Let's say you wanted to do something and to find people put it in your status message here on the zone. The only bad idea 'bout that is that it keeps tracks of every message you were to put out there, so doin it this way could be bad.
Then there's the avenue that maybe women are more into the emotion thing then guys are, so maybe women aren't into just doin stuff for the hel of it. Beats me?
I completely agree with all who advised to just be very very very clear about exactly what you're wanting. And even then, the other person's feelings could become more involved, and that sort of thing can cause a lot of heart ache and a lot of good friendships to end, and it really sucks when that happens. There's a lot of guilt and hurt feelings that can, and often times result from this sort of thing. And you know, it's true that having the freedom to have that sort of relationship has its advantages. Maybe it's because I've pretty much sewn my wild oats in my twenties, but now at thirty, I'm ready to find that one person with whom I can settle down for the long haul. And while there's probably a bunch of people out there that are compatible with all of us both physically and emotionally, I myself am at the point where I want to be content and happy with who I choose to mary without wondering if I'm missing out on something/someone better. Like I said, just be carefull, and I hope that through all of your experimenting, you'll have a better understanding of what/who you want, and even if you don't get any closer to knowing exactly what you want, I hope you and the other people that come along for the ride have fun and don't get your hearts broken in the process. Good luck.
I've had two situations so far where we set the boundries and were perfectly clear, but then my emotions got in the way and I got too attached. I wish one of those situations had never happened, but on the other hand, I'm thankful for the other situation. Though it damn near killed me emotionally, it was worth every bit of hurt. sometimes, there comes a point when I just decide to take the risk, enjoying it for the moment. sometimes, there's a price to pay and sometimes not. I don't blame the other people involved. They told me right from the start exactly what was up.
Check out Casual Encounters on Craigslist LOL. Some of the women ont here. Wow. As to me if I were looking it's simple. A lady with a good personality and a good sense of humor, and above all someone who knows for sure what they want. I just recently washed my hands of a woman because while she was continuously going on about how she wanted to be with me she was seeing someone else. Needless to say I was less than pleased whenI found out.
in reguards to not wanting a relationship just casioul sex, i totally hear you i find myself in the same situation. i don't want to commit to anything, though frankly i wouldn't say no to some cyber fun.
I always wondered what it would be like to be with a gal who was into handcuffs and a bit of the wild side, a bit sexy I think.